If you're in a romantic relationship, you know that conflicts and disagreements are a natural part of the process.
It's completely normal to have differing opinions and challenges with your partner, but it's important to remember that these challenges can also serve as opportunities for growth and deeper connection.
One way I like to approach conflicts in my romantic relationship is by using the teachings of Abraham Hicks.
Abraham Hicks is a well-known spiritual entity who advocates for the power of positive thinking and the law of attraction.
I highly advise checking out YouTube videos of Abraham hicks. According to Hicks, our thoughts and emotions have a huge impact on our reality, and by focusing on the positive, we can attract more positivity into our lives.
It's important to note that applying these teachings takes practice, But is worth it! From my personal experience.
Sometimes your partner may not want to talk about their feelings or express their thoughts, or if they do, they may get angry or blindside you.
In these situations, it can be helpful to take a step back and remember that we can't control other people's behavior, but we can control our own.
So, how can we use the principles of Abraham Hicks to transform negative arguments into positive outcomes in our romantic relationships?
Here are 5 tips that have really helped me:
Focus on what you want, not what you don't want. This is key because we usually don't do that, we tend to look at what we don't want and end up getting more of it. So when I'm in the middle of a conflict with my partner, it's easy to get caught up in my complaints and frustrations. But according to Hicks, the key to attracting what we want is to focus on it, not the lack of it. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of the argument, I try to shift my focus to what I ultimately want in the relationship, How would it make me feel to have this kind of a relationship? For example, instead of saying "I hate it when you forget to take out the trash," I try saying "I really appreciate it when we work together to keep our home clean and organized."
Practice gratitude. Gratitude is a powerful tool for shifting our focus to the positive. When I'm feeling negative or frustrated with my partner, it can be helpful to take a moment to reflect on all the things I appreciate about them, if that isn't a possibility for you at that moment to find positive aspects I suggest practicing general appreciation for things that are working out for you. This helps to shift my perspective and focus on the things that are going well in the relationship or in my life, rather than dwelling on the negative.
Use "I" statements. "I" statements are a great communication tool that can help me express my own feelings and needs without blaming or attacking my partner. For example, instead of saying "You always forget to take out the trash," I try saying "I feel frustrated when the trash isn't taken out, because it makes me feel like we're not working together as a team." This helps to de-escalate the argument and allows for a more productive conversation.
Seek to understand, not to be understood. In any conflict, it's important to listen and try to understand where my partner is coming from. This means really listening to their thoughts and feelings and attempting to see things from their perspective, even if it's different from our own. It's important to remember that we can't know exactly what someone else is thinking or feeling, and their views and opinions are just as valid as ours. Instead of trying to convince them to see things our way, we can try to genuinely listen and seek to understand their perspective. This helps to create a sense of connection and shows that we value their thoughts and feelings.
Take responsibility for your own emotions. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own emotions and reactions. While it's natural to feel upset or hurt during a conflict with your partner, it's important to remember that you have the power to choose how you respond. Instead of reacting in anger or frustration, try to take a step back and take some deep breaths. This will help you to stay grounded and respond more calmly and effectively.
By following these tips and incorporating them into your relationship, you can transform negative arguments into positive outcomes and create deeper, more fulfilling connections with your partner. It's important to remember that these principles take practice and it's not always easy, give yourself time and patience.
